Tofu Kitten: Let’s get the basic question out of the way… What’s your story?
Ebony Diaperboy: I am a married, masculine, black man who grew up in the Long Island and Queens areas of New York. I have a diaper fetish and I am also extremely kink and sex positive. My wife knows, but for the most part I keep my two lives, vanilla and kink, separate. I’ve always felt that people of color and, more specifically, black men are underrepresented in the kink community for many reasons, which we can get into if you like, but my story is just me being myself and taking every opportunity to educate and inform others, while empowering people of color to embrace self-love and sexuality without guilt or resentment.
Do you have a FetLife profile, or have you ever used the platform?
Yes, I do have a FetLife page. I am quite new to it though. I believe I’ve only had my Fet for about three months or so and I am loving it. I wish I would have discovered it much earlier. It’s such a great community site, not to mention it’s a source for the best porn and masturbation material. I am totally into amateur stuff! There are so many awesome people on that site. By the way, I love new friends there so find me. My name is ebony_diaperboy.
On a scale of 0 – ’70s sexploitation films, where would you rank yourself?
First off, let me say your questions are awesome, and I am already having a great ass time!!! I am such a fan of ’70s sexploitation. I actively seek them out, and I have masturbated to them so many times. I love the plots and the kinkiness of them. They are the stuff sexual fantasies are made of, so I would say I am at the top of that scale: I am totally ’70s sexploitation films. So yeaaa, I am a ’70s sexploitation film.
What is a myth you know to be false?
So many… but I am going to take the angle of sex and relationships. Well, it’s a total fucking myth that having a sexual desire that doesn’t involve your significant other means they are missing something that you require, like it’s a shortcoming on them. That’s bullshit. Wanting something doesn’t mean not wanting something else, you know what I mean?
Why do you think people think that?
I think as humans we do our best to limit our mental effort, so that takes form in many ways. In the case of sexuality and desires, it means separating everything into polar opposites: female/male, gay/straight, etc. We do this so we don’t have to think, so we don’t actually have to seek to understand by trading dialogue. So when a husband says he has an interest or desire to try something, it automatically means his wife cannot please him… SORRY, THAT’S BULLSHIT!
What fetishes would you say are over- or underrated? Paddles, whips, canes, fingers, floggers, knife play…?
I really don’t like to judge, especially when it comes to kinks, sexual preferences, and fetishes, sooo I can’t comfortably answer that. What I can say is I haven’t tried paddling, nor have I had a desire to but, at this very moment, I am thinking that would be kind of awesome on my diapered butt! Whips, no interest in as well, the same goes for canes, and especially not knife play and flogging because I personally do not like pain nor inflicting it. I’m squeamish at the site of blood. But fingers, I’m down with fingering pussy and assholes, and I like a finger in my butt also.
What is your favorite time of day?
Nighttime, the later the better.
What are you not very good at?
I am not good at being given ultimatums.
That being said, what personality trait has gotten you into the most trouble?
I would say my defiance. I don’t like being disrespected or told what to do. So me, if you don’t respectfully request something, it’s not going to happen and I’m going to tell you about it. I don’t care who you are.
What trait has helped you achieve the most success?
My growth mindset. I believe every moment alive we are evolving and have the chance to learn and experience things so we can become the best version of ourselves.
Aside from the obvious, what are your primary kinks?
Obviously, ABDL. I also have a BBC fetish, and like sissification, forced-bi, exhibitionism, humiliation… I am also interested in dressing. Most of my kinks are sub/dom related with a female domme involved.
What is your favorite part of the human body?
So many LOL, but if I had to choose one, I think lips would be my answer.
What is your favorite sexual position?
With a woman on her side, legs are scissored open, and I am perpendicular. My wife knows that is my ultimate favorite!!!!! So many possibilities.
Lights on or lights off?
Lights off.
Would you rather give or receive oral?
I would rather give.
Would you rather pay for sex or get paid for sex?
I would only like to have sex because I want to and the other person genuinely wants to. I don’t care about money. It’s all about us both being horny and wanting to fuck. Being paid or paying takes that away. So out of the two, I would say I would rather get paid, but I wouldn’t do it if I am not turned on.
How has growing up in Queens, NY and Long Island influenced you?
I think growing up in these areas has allowed me to develop a mind open to different cultures and people. It definitely contributed to my confidence in myself and my understanding of people.
How did your family and friends react to your kinks and newfound persona?
Well, only my wife really knows, and the reaction was definitely supportive.
Do you care what they or other people think?
No, I don’t. The only reason I hide my face and keep my kink and vanilla lives separate is because of the nature of my profession and because people do not understand. Other than that, I’m confident in who I am, and my kink doesn’t dictate my character. So no, I don’t care what others think. Anything I engage in is consensual, legal, and safe.
On a somewhat random note, what would you do if you were elected president of the United States (aside from getting rid of all the anti-kink people in the House of Representatives and Senate of course)?
I would seek to overhaul the justice system and put systems in place that would hold law enforcement agents a hell of a lot more accountable, while making the recruitment process a whole lot more rigorous.
Are you a cat person or a dog person? Or do you like some more exotic animals?
I’m a dinosaur little boy.
Have you ever given vegetarianism or veganism a thought?
Yes, though we haven’t adopted the whole lifestyle. My wife and I engage in vegan diets weeks at a time every few months or so. Something to cleanse our systems.
Finally, what truly motivates you?
Inspiring others to be better. I like to think of my motivation and inspiration as my own small way of making the world a better place.
